Archives for posts with tag: accomplishments

You And Your Identity

Looking back at the last post I hope you took some time to relax and put yourself in that safe and curious state. And found some answers to that question that people have been asking themselves for many years “Who am I?”

To assist you in defining yourself, remember that identity is simply what distinguishes you from everyone else. I would like to share a couple of exercises I feel you will enjoy and benefit from.

  1. If you were to do a Google search under your name, what would it say? Would three words just about cover it, or would your epic narrative consume page after page?

Right now, write down the definition you would find if you were to Google your name. Title it “My Google Definition” Take a moment, and let your answers sink in. When you’re ready, move to the next exercise.

  1. If you were to create an ID card that would represent who you truly are, what would be on it – and what would you leave off?
  • Would it include a picture or not?
  • Would you list your vital statistics?
  • Your physical description?
  • Your accomplishments?
  • Your emotions?
  • Your beliefs?
  • Your affiliations?
  • Your aspirations?
  • Your motto?
  • Your abilities?

Take a moment to describe what would be on this identity card and what would be left off in order to show someone who you really are.

Now, take a look at what you’ve written down, at the descriptions you have of your identity – in essence, the story of your life. How do you feel about it? I hope you’re taking a moment right now to really appreciate who you are, to feel the deep emotion that comes with recognition. If you’re noticing that your identity creates pain, know that whatever you call your identity is simply what you’ve decided to identify with, and that in a moment you could change it all. YOU HAVE THE POWER WITHIN YOU RIGHT NOW. In fact, after looking at how identities evolve, you’ll have an opportunity to expand your identity, and therefore your entire life.

In tomorrow’s post we will explore the evolution of an identity, and changing your identity.

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

 Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

Who are you, anyway? Before you answer this question you will need to define yourself, identify who you are.

There are so many ways in which you can define yourself.

You may describe yourself by:

  • Your emotions (I’m a lover, I’m peaceful, I’m intense)
  • Your profession (I’m an attorney, I’m a doctor, I’m a priest)
  • Your title (I’m Executive Vice President, I’m CEO)
  • Your income (I’m a millionaire)
  • Your role (I’m a mother, I’m the eldest of five girls)
  • Your behaviors (I’m a gambler, I’m a player)
  • Your possessions (I’m a Beemer owner)
  • Your metaphors (I’m king of the hill, I’m low man on the totem pole)
  • Your feedback (I’m worthless, I’m special)
  • Your spiritual beliefs (I’m Jewish)
  • Your looks (I’m beautiful, I’m ugly, I’m old)
  • Your accomplishments (I’m the 2010 Menchville High Homecoming Queen, I’m the captain of the football team)
  • Your past (I’m a failure, and even what you’re not (I’m a quitter)

 Your friends and peers identity often tends to affect you as well. Take a good look at them who you believe they are is often a reflection of who you believe you are. (If they are sensitive, there is a good chance you see yourself as being sensitive also.) Do you look to your past, present, or the future to define who you truly are?

When you are looking to answer the question Who Are You – you need to be in a relaxed, safe, and curious frame of mind. Put yourself away from all distractions find a nice quite place if not you will not get the answers you need.

So now you are in your own little quiet place.

  • Take a deep breath in, relax and leave the breath out (do this several times.)
  • Let your mind be curious – not fearful, not concerned, not looking for perfection or for anything in particular.
  • Just ask yourself, “Who am I”
  • Write down the answer
  • Then ask it again. Each time you ask it write down whatever surfaces
  • Keep probing deeper and deeper
  • Continue to ask yourself until you find the description of yourself that you have the strongest conviction about how you define yourself. (This may take several sessions of doing this behavior) Make time to do this exercise if you truly want to define who you are.

How you define yourself?

  1. What is the essence of who you are?
  2. What metaphors do you use to describe yourself?
  3. What roles do you play?

Often if you don’t create this safe and curious state, all of the fears and hesitations about your identity will keep giving you inadequate answers. For example if out of the blue you ask a friend – Who are you? Without them being in a quiet state of mind you probably get one of two responses: A blank stare or a surface-level answer.

Let me say I feel you do know who you are. You can come up with the answer if you take a few minutes to brainstorm right now. But you must trust yourself to let whatever answers come out of you just flow, and write them down.

What is the benefit of knowing who you are? It is the ability to instantaneously shape all of your behaviors. So before we go any further take a few moments to answer the question “Who Am I?”

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

 Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano
(757)-810-0208
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.

Spring seems like it is coming and going some warm and sunny day’s then bitter cold and in many places snow. This doesn’t seem to bother my daffodil flowers; they are blooming bright yellow with no regards to the weather. With the weather changes and time change many people go through a biological change and also are in a search for happiness, many people look for it in other people and not within ourselves. Many people feel that things like money, a better job, better relationships..etc will make them happy. In reality, to find true contentment you must look inside yourself and learn to be your own best friend. That means you have to trust, love, and care for yourself just as you do the people you consider to be close to you.

Following are steps that you can incorporate into your life that will help you to feel more empowered and happy about yourself:

Begin to lift yourself up, not put yourself down. If you don’t like something about yourself, work to change it. If you can’t change it, simply accept it. Don’t beat up on yourself with negative self-talk. You’re not likely to change for the better when you fill yourself with negative thoughts.

Give yourself positive rewards. When you do something that you are proud of give yourself a small reward. Try not to wait for others to praise you because you may grow resentful if the praise doesn’t come. Pat your own back; it is a great feeling that can stay with you for a long time.

Forgive yourself. I doubt that you would keep scolding a child over and over for making a mistake so don’t do that to yourself. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness when you make a mistake. After that, work to figure out what lesson you can learn, and use it to make better choices the next time around.

Enjoy your successes. Most people can remember all of the details of depressing, painful or even embarrassing events that happened many years ago. What if you did the same thing with all of your wins? Try to remember all of the triumphs
and accomplishments that you’ve made and keep that memory with you and think about it at least once a week.

Always remember to celebrate your wonderful qualities! You will soon discover that the more you love yourself, the more you will be able to give love to others and the more others will be able to love you!

Here’s To Your Success,

Until next time!

Prosperously yours,

Jerry

P.S. Remember The Buck $tarts Here


Jerry Scicchitano
Jerry Scicchitano is known for turning ideas into action. His concept paper, “The Entrepreneurial Mall,” was presented at the 20th Annual Entrepreneurship Education Forum, sponsored by the Kauffman Center for Entrepreneurial Leadership. Jerry is the author of Part Time Income Enterprise (Morgan James Publishing), and founding sponsor of the M.H.S Entrepreneur and Inventors Club. Jerry also sits on the board for two non-profits: The Every Child Deserves a Chance Foundation and Jesus – The Divine Mercy Foundation.